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Number 9, September 2008

The Conquest of Happiness

Kaunain Shahidi

HAPPINESS is a wonderful feeling. You ask anyone and the most probable answer you would get is that he is looking for happiness in life! Technically speaking happiness is felt intrinsically when we acquire whatever we wanted to, or achieve whatever we desired.

High level of intelligence (I.Q.) is needed to achieve in life whatever we want and it follows therefore, that it is necessary to have high IQ to reach the goal of happiness. In practice however the situation does not follow this neat model. Even though it is important to have a high level of IQ to be the best in whatever we do, there remains one more important determinant guiding the course of a person’s success in achieving happiness in life, which is known as Emotional Intelligence or Emotional Quotient (EQ).

You might have met many people, who are academically brilliant and are yet socially and inter-personally inept, and despite possessing a high IQ rating, happiness does not automatically follow them and you will not find them happy always. The question arises whether I.Q. is enough to achieve whatever we want and thereby bring happiness? If not then what else is needed? Experts have reported that it is the emotional quotient that has greater influence on one’s pursuit of happiness.

Emotional Intelligence is all about knowing one’s self, managing one’s feelings about somebody or something, handling relationships and understanding another person’s feelings and difficulties. These attributes are important for all of us to live a happy, contended and successful life in all aspects, as very commonly it has been seen that most of us put ourselves in difficult situations making ourselves angry, tensed & having unhealthy relationships because of our inability to handle our emotions.

Emotional Intelligence comprises of four broad areas of ability:

  • Self Awareness: Knowing, how your emotions are affecting your performance; being able to make decisions based on your feelings; knowing your strengths and weaknesses and, as a result, having high level of self-confidence.
  • Self Regulation: Managing disruptive feelings, emotions, and impulses so that you can focus on the jobs in hand, be flexible in handling change, be open to new ideas and be ready to act on opportunities.
  • Social Awareness: Being able to put your own emotional preoccupations on hold in order to be aware of the feelings, needs, perspectives, and concerns of other people. This forms the basis of a number of competencies that enables you to help others develop, and increases the ability to read social undercurrents.
  • Social Skills: Being aware and friendly and thus being able to persuade, builds bonds and collaborations. It is the ability to carry on a conversation and deal with others’ emotions. It is being socially competent.

So, if you are looking for real happiness, evaluate yourself to know how intelligent you are emotionally. It's simple; you can find the answers within yourself. Unlike IQ, which is something you are born with, the good news is that EQ skills can be developed if you are really interested to excel in developing these skills

Kaunain Shahidi, is a freelance writer (kshahidi@spimaco.bz).

Urdu through MS Word

Tabish Asifi

The steps to utilize the feature of Urdu in MS Word: First check whether the necessary support files for right to left languages are installed on your system.

You can go to the regional and language options (Start->settings->control Panel -> regional and language options).
Go to the language tab and see if the check box “Install files for complex …” is tick marked.

If it is not, then you have to check it and click ok (it will ask you for your windows XP cd to complete the installation.)

  • Insert the windows xp installation cd and it will automatically complete the installation (in case it does not, it might require you to enter the correct path to the installation cd ,which means you have to type - D:\i386)
  • Once you have completed the installation, come back to ‘regional and language options” panel again.
  • Go to the tab “Languages”, click on the “Detail” button , Then click on “Add” Button
  • From the ‘input language’ drop-down list select “Urdu”, click OK.

Now your computer will have the Urdu Keyboard installed in Ms Word, with all its advantages. For using this keyboard you have to switch over from English to Urdu by pressing alt +shift. (For switching back to English press alt + shift again)

Times New Roman font is compatible with Traditional Arabic font which also passes through E-mails.

Tabish Asifi is an IT Consultant in Dubai (tabish.asifi@gmail.com).

Birth of a New Desire

Shabi Hashmi

I would like to recount my journey towards my bonding with the Anjuman so that it should reinforce the faith of all of us that our salvation lies in collective action. This piece is a recap of what is there in the archives of Anjuman. It was not long when I used to live in a village in the district of Darbhanga. Following the examples of my brothers, I also decided to move out for higher studies. The immediate sacrifice obviously was the comfort of home as it entailed moving into a hostel.

The debauchery, fraud and fanaticism of the day kept me perplexed even as I continued to have some vague sense of some ray of light on the horizon. Time passed briskly and I reached the prestigious institution of Aligarh Muslim University. There also I was not happy with the overall achievements of the Muslim masses. The more I thought about the plight of Muslims, the more it took me into depression. One question always nagged my mind. Why were the Muslims such great losers at every front? The thoughts always plagued me and gave me restless nights. I was at a loss to comprehend the reasons behind the downfall of Muslims. Why were we lagging behind, although not long ago there were Muslims contributing to progress in all walks of life? Could anyone ignore the likes of Ibn Sina, El Zahrawi, Jabir Ibn Hayyan, Ibn Rushd, Sultan Salahuddin Ayyubi, and Abu Raihan al-Beruni?

After completion of my degree from AMU, I had a chance to pursue my studies from one of the best German Universities. That somehow fulfilled my "personal desire" but didn't quench my thirst to know the reasons behind the decline of my community. During my stay in Germany (where I received my Master’s degree and worked for Philips) I had various opportunities to interact and learn about many Muslims working for the upliftment of the Muslim masses. These interactions gave me the answers to the question that had kept me haunted for a long time since my childhood. All the answers pointed to the apathy of affluent Muslims towards the not-so-privileged members of the community. I was suddenly faced with the stark reality that there are none amongst us working for the socio-economic & educational empowerment of Bihari Muslim community. This paved way for the “Birth of a New Desire", a desire to help the poor suffering Muslims back home. Naturally if the desire is pursued alone, its impact is limited. But I wanted my desire to become a big tree with strong roots.

So I started initiating contacts with like minded Bihari Muslims. To my good fortune, I came across a group called Bihar Anjuman and Shakeel Ahmad. His passion to do something for the community and the following quotes from Quran worked as fuel to bring me closer to this group.

Let there arise out of you a band of people inviting to all that is good, enjoining what is right, and forbidding what is wrong: They are the ones to attain felicity. [Quran 03:104] Be not like those who are divided amongst themselves and fall into disputations after receiving Clear Signs: For them is a dreadful penalty. [Quran 03:105]

Alhamdulillah we have grown stronger together as a unit. The last several years have brought many wonderful souls to our bandwagon. With them we have been able to initiate some quality work for the community. But it has also shown us that the path is not so smooth and there are many hurdles along the way. We are nevertheless determined to walk ahead and we pray to Allah for our success.

It seems our collective effort is showing some results for the poor Muslim community of Bihar. There is a long way to go though!!! But the good things never die and Insha-Allah this Anjuman will bear fruits and fulfill its objectives in days to come. Ameen!

Shabi Hashmi, is a Senior Engineer at Cardiff, UK and a moderator of Bihar Anjuman(shabihashmi@yahoo.com).

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This is with reference to query about Jamia Urdu Aligarh, which is an independent educational organization with no administrative, financial or academic tie-up with AMU. This institution was set up in 1939 at Agra under Bazm-e Iqbal but after Independence it was shifted to Aligarh in 1949. The main object behind setting up the Jamia was to promote Urdu language and literature. This institution is imparting education in Urdu language and literature through correspondence mode since its inception. The Jamia is considered as a deemed University and offers Adeeb (equivalent to secondary school examination), Adeeb-e-Mahir (equivalent to senior secondary school examination) , Adeeb-e-Kaamil (equivalent to B.A. examination) and Muallim-e-Urdu (equivalent to B.T.C. i.e. teacher’s training course). Several Boards and Universities have recognized its courses for pursuing further studies and U. P. government has recognized the Muallim-e-Urdu for recruitment of Urdu teachers But, Jamia Urdu Aligarh was facing acute financial and administrative crisis and mismanagement for the last few years. And on Court’s orders it was put under the charge of the District administration.

Could a detailed write-up on this institution be submitted by someone either in English or in Urdu? -Editor.

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